At a dinner party in New York, one of the guests, a woman who had inherited money, was eager to make a pleasing impression everyone. She had squandered a modest fortune on sables, diamonds and pears,.. But she hadn't done anything whatever about her face. It radiated sourness and selfishness. She didn't realize what everyone knows: namely, that the expression one wears on one's face is farm more important that the clothes one wears on one's back.
Actions speak louder that words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." An insincere doesn't fool anybody. I am talking about a real smile, a heartwarming smile, a smile that comes from within, the kind of smile that will bring a good price in the marketplace.
It has been suggested that even when engaged in phone conversations you should smile. I have tried this at work and most of my conservations are pleasant and end on pleasant note even when I'm not telling the person on the other end what they want to hear.
If you don't feel like smiling? Two things. First , force yourself to smile. If you're alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will dent to make you happy. Here us the way psychologist and philosopher William James put it:
- "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not."
Principle 2: Smile