Great Reading and Personal Experiment

by Dale Carnegie

There is a world of self-help books out there to choose from so why recommend one that was first published in 1937?. This book provides easy to understand concepts that you can apply everday to situations that most of us encounter in dealing with people. It is recommend that each chapter be read twice to soak it in and as you are reading picture yourself in situations where you could use them.

Even though the book was first published in 1937 it still provides great insight into how to deal with people and get what you want. Research performed at the Carnegie Institute of Technology confirmed that even in technical fields such as engineering, about 15% of one's financial success is due to one's technical knowledge and about 85% is due to skill in human engineering-to personality and the ability to lead people. Seems worth a try.

The book is broken down into four parts with three to twelve chapters of principles. In the chapter there are also real life examples of the effect of using the principles. At the end of each chapter there is a short sentence or two to remind you of the principle as you begin to put it into use.

Each week I will post the principle at Joe's Goals and track my progress. My goal is to work on each principle until my green checks outweigh my red X's. When I accomplish this I will add another principle and track it as well. To make it more interesting I'll add some in the field expereinces.

Part 1: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Chapter 1: If you want to gather honey don't kick over the bee hive.
  • Don't Criticize, Condemn or Complain


Alternative Routines (Being Flexible)

I'm one that likes my routine. I don't like change and will fight hard to keep things the way they are. It is a benefit for things like sticking to a workout or making lifestyle changes. However, it doesn't work well when life throws you a curve ball.

Wednesday mornings are usually my work week cycling morning. Tuesday night I layed out my cold weather cycling gear and was ready for the morning routine thinking the temperture would be in the mid to upper 20's. I typically check my email and look at the weather forcast briefly after dinner but missed on Tuesday. When I got down stairs at 4:15am and checked my blog my weather underground banner showed the tempature at 16 degrees. I refreshed my site and then checked other weather sites as I was sure there was a mistake. No such luck, I was faced with riding in 16 degrees or not riding. I'm not sure how but I had missed the fact that Wednesday's morning low was going to be below 20 degrees.

Typically I would have gotten down about it because I couldn't stick to my normal routine but something prompted me to checked the site of the East Lake YMCA to see what time they opened on the outside chance I would go and ride a stationary bike.

The "Y" opens at 5:30 am. I also remembered that I had done a spin class in the evening there a few times. I pulled up the group exercise programs and sure enough there was a spin class at 6:00 am. The instructor I discovered at the class is the mother of one of my kids classmate. Problem solved.

I had forgotten how hard spin class can be (no coasting). I actually pushed myself harder and enjoyed it much more than riding in the cold.

This was a good lesson for me. It goes to show you that if you will go with what you dealt and not fight it good things will usually happen.