Recent research shows that while 52% of participants in a Resolution study were confident of success with their goals, only 12% actually achieved their goals. Men achieved their goal 22% more often when they engaged in goal setting, a system where small measurable goals are used (lose a pound a week, instead of saying "lose weight"), while women succeeded 10% more when they made their goals public and got support from their friends. Qurikology Study.
Increase the odds: Set goals; start small and move up. Start with daily easy obtainable goals and to have a clear view of what you want your life to be like. Try this exercise of writing your on personal commandments. Here are mine:
- Practice Patience
- The Golden Rule (I figure if I can get this one right the other things will fall in place)
- Stay in the present moment.
- Act the way I want to feel.
- Choose not to take things personally.
- Forget the past.
- Don't complain.
I may add others. Working on these will take relentless effort, I'll keep you updated on my progress.